Marriage needs to be protected. This is what people are saying. Marriage is between a man and a woman, and this needs to be protected by banning gay marriage. WHAT IN THE HELL ARE YOU TRYING TO PROTECT IT FROM?? I've been trying to answer this question for a while and am so far from an answer, I'm back at the question. I need protection from those people.
Dear hetero people who are trying to protect hetero marriage: If two gay people get married, does it invalidate your marriage? Does it degrade your relationship with your spouse? Does it make you get a divorce? Does it hurt you or your family? Does it mean no more hetero people can get married? Are you paying for these people to get married? Are you paying for them to get divorced? Does the marriage have any ill effect on you? .....a big NO to all those questions. My hetero marriage has nothing to do with anyone else's hetero marriage...what does a homosexual marriage have to do with anyone except the people getting married?
What this "protection" is really about is that people want to exclude people from the happiness they so easily enjoy for no other reason but tradition, religion, and a lack of understanding. Religious groups are just that...groups. For example, if Catholic leadership doesn't like what a person is doing, they can be kicked out of the Catholic club and the person can go on to live their life. Why is it that people part of a religous group within society get to say that everyone in society has to adhere to their rules?? Why can't they just kick them out of their club for not "adhering" and leave them alone??? Or refuse to let them in the club? Instead, they are saying that they cannot do what every other hetero person can do at the drop of a freaking dime, regardless of whether they are part of the club or not. Why not "protect" marriage from hetero people who don't give a crap about religion, but get married? Better yet, why not protect marriage from people who get married for dumb reasons and then procreate dumb kids and further the dumbness throughout society? Why worry so damn much about what people who really love each other and are committed to each other are doing and worry about the hetero people who are crapping on marriage every day?
Oh, and this is rich. In this article about the recent Senate vote on the Constitutional amendment to prohibit gay marriage, it mentions how this one Senator said "The Republican leadership is asking us to spend time writing bigotry into the Constitution". And then someone said "Does he really want to suggest that over half of the United States Senate is a crew of bigots?" in response. Um, okay....yes! You wanna kick these people out of the Christianity club, fine. But, American society is one club you don't get to kick people out of without valid reasons...that's what America is all about. And numbers don't matter. A hell of a lot of people thought slavery was okay, but that doesn't make it actually okay. You wanna disagree with people being homosexual? Fine. Don't you also disagree with hetero people who commit sins all over the place? You don't stop them from getting married. Deliberately prohibiting something in the country's Constitution that has absolutely no ill effects on you is utterly ridiculous. It doesn't even exist literally in the first place (so you obviously don't have any reasons to back it up). Marriage is a state of mind with financial benefits. It is all about the two people involved. Look, you don't have to run out and amend every dictionary to say that marriage is between anyone, and you certainly don't have to run out and codify gay marriage everywhere and anywhere in the law books. But to outright amend the Constitution of the United States to say that everyone cannot do something, because your group's belief system said so? You can't do that...especially if you are getting the idea from a belief system that not everyone else adheres to. Just don't let "the offenders" in your club if you're so worried.
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I hear you! I was listening to the Peter Rosenburg show on 106.7FM 10am-12am and they were talking about this issue. A delegate whose name I forgot, named Bob (real name) Douchebag (given name) was arguing about this. The hosts asked how gay marriage takes away from straight marriage and he was like,
"it degrades marriage"
"how? how does it take away?"
I'm paraphrasing, but here's where he got weird and I'm quoting,
"If I produce counterfeit money, it takes away from the value of real money."
"but how the f!*@#* does it take away from straight marriage?!"
Honestly, I mean, just say, "I don't like it, I can't justify it, but I just don't."
If someone would say that, I'd respect their honesty. If you say you don't think gay marriage is real, fine, that's your opinion, it's not fact. It's like when people say, "But of course (fill in deity here) is the one true god!" It's like saying,
"Green cars are the the true cars! If you have a black car, it's not a valid car! It demoralizes and devalues green cars!"
"How?"
"Wh-what?"
The only person who is semi-against gay marriage in a non-legal way to give me a decent honest answer said this:
"My idea marriage, what it's always meant to me is a man and a women. I have so many ideas and emotional conceptions around the meaning, that gay marriage redefines it. I know it's not necessarily fair or right, but I feel like I had the definition first, if they want the same thing, fine, but create their own word. Instead of creating they're own identity, I feel they're usurping mine, and forcing me to redefine myself to suit them. I'm not against their rights, I'm against the word. I feel like I'm being forced into a group I didn't choose to be a part of. I think that any two people who have a long-term platonic or not relationship should be able to get financial and legal rights, like when you and Carol lived together and were covered jointly by your job at Chase. I don't know if how I feel is right, but it's how I feel."
-Bobby
Another interesting point that Mike brought up to me this weekend was that partly why they didn't want to allow gay marriages was because, and this is what Mike actually said, it would cost too much money to reword the marriage certificates.
Those fighting this, are fighting a losing battle. It's really only a matter of time.
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